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today i am heartbroken and sad and angry and frustrated. i woke up this morning wanting to rip my brain out of my head, make myself micro-sized and hide under the biggest pile of blankets i could find. i’ve spent the morning in tears (which came a total shock to me). as a small business owner, i know i’ll likely lose my healthcare and my household income could take a hit but my worry is deeper than finances and even health. i’m so deeply disturbed that so many people sided with hate yesterday. there’s people out there not willing to […]

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What To Do When You Don’t Want To Do Anything

Lately I’ve felt burnout, exhausted, dog-tired. I’ve been running a marathon for over two years, first it was juggling a full-time job plus a side gig, which then became my new full time career (yep – this business). Within 2 weeks of taking my little side hustle full time, my client roster was full. I was ecstatic… until it came time to build my business. After taking care of my clients, I sometimes feel like I’m back to having two jobs, with the added pressure of the success of both being squarely on me. There are days I feel like […]

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Tell Me About What You Need

When my grandmother moved from her home to an assisted care facility, it was not an easy decision for the family. She was resistant to losing her independence. We didn’t know what to expect from these facilities. After seeing her unhappy in her new living situation and not loving her home, my aunt and uncle (who were spearheading her care decisions) didn’t know what to do next. My grandmother couldn’t take care of herself in her big home, so moving home wasn’t an option, but she was deeply unhappy where she was. They visited dozens of senior care facilities, but none were […]

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Why Do We Resist What We Ultimately Crave?

Each day, I find myself resisting. I feel resistance when I think about going to the gym or not eating that chocolate covered almond or spending a luxuriously, lazy 20 minutes reading. Instead of doing, I escape through busywork or tv or Facebook. I feel the hesitation and instead of letting the feeling pass through me, I avoid it like … fill in the blank with that one thing you avoid more than anything – Aunt Velma’s fruit cake at Christmas, your neighbor’s friendly suggestion to use their son to mow your lawn. Three things I resist BIG TIME: Writing […]

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How I Use Boomerang to Enforce MY Boundaries

If you hang around here often, you’ll know I love Boomerang, the email scheduling app for Gmail. It’s like my very own personal inbox assistant, who handily reminds me at just the right time that I need to follow-up on some piece of correspondence. And it helps me preschedule important emails to go out at just the right time. But I have a dirty little secret… … Boomerang also helps me enforce my boundaries on my time. As The Photographer likes to joke, I don’t have an ‘off’ switch. I sometimes find it hard to unplug and stop working. But […]

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What I Learned from My Pups, a Neighbor and an Off-Hand Remark

She walked across the street, towards us, with a smile on her face. It was a neighbor I’d never seen before. She cheerfully said “Hello”, followed by “they’re beautiful.” I wasn’t caught off-guard until she said her next comment, “and I can see they’re regular.” You see, Georgie had just done his business on a lawn and we were stopped so that I could make sure we didn’t leave a gift behind. Yes, this wonderful stranger had not only complimented me on my ‘beautiful’ two dogs, but also one’s bowel movement. I chuckled to myself and thought, “Who says that?!?” […]

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Be Kind

2014 is when it really started, bubbled to the surface and became a thing I couldn’t ignore. I had been living a life I thought I wanted – nice home, big job, fun vacations. But I was so deeply unhappy with where I was and it bled to those around me. My foul moods would engulf a conference room like no other. But then… I saw people ask for what they most needed in life, despite the fact that those around them didn’t agree or understand or support them. Seeing others take that scary step almost had me undone. But […]

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